[MissC]

I think some are saying that they didn't know about their gender issues at all before getting married.

That may be true in a few cases, but the overwhelming majority of us gender-nonconforming types report knowing it well before the onset of puberty. I didn't know how or why I was different, just that I was... and it was well before middle school.

But the sheer number of these discussions I have seen on the internet... it doesn't jibe with that statistic!

So, I don't really think there are suddenly thousands of cases of late-onset gender non-conformity. I believe that in most cases is a cop-out.

However: someone may know of their issues, and innocently believe they can put them aside for a spouse. That's definitely a mistake, but everyone makes mistakes at times.

I think the vast majority know... but don't think through the consequences of their decisions.


Oh... and howdy! I hope you are healing well, and soon off to find your nirvana.