[Miranda-nata-est]

I personally have no axe to grind with anyone at all. Exactly the opposite in fact.

I don't know whether I would have eventually discovered the true me without BN or not, but I do know that I would be nowhere near the person I am today without the input of the whole gender spectrum here.

The reason I preferred non segregated forums was just that, they were non segregated. This resulted in the fact that I ended up reading and assimilating material which I would probably not have looked at had it been in discrete forums. I didn't know I was a female, I didn't have a clue I was a candidate for transition therefore I wouldn't have sought out material relevant to the trans world (other than maybe curiosity).

My reasons for wanting the forums to stay as an entangled sequence of topics was based on the effect it has had on my life. It is probably not an exaggeration to say that discovering who I am has probably saved me - I had been on a self destruct path for so many years that realistically, my days must have been numbered.

That has all changed now and I give thanks with all my heart to those of all persuasions here at BN.

What I didn't want done is to disadvantage others who may be in the same position I was and who may not now find answers to the questions they don't know they have. I still feel that divided sections have just that effect although I will of course go along with the majority.


The other thing I think is that segregation here in a way, just goes to reinforce the segregation that is rife in the outside world. There is no doubt that a proportion of the trans world seem to go around with a huge great chip on their shoulder and seem hell bent on creating the divides that this topic is presumably addressing in so many ways. That is not universally the case. I haven't personally seen much evidence of that here at BN.


So I agree totally, live and let live.


Miranda


PS I didn't realise it either until fully on the transition trail, but there is absolutely no way that anyone can begin to get inside the heads of those who have made the decision to transition. Most of the changes are unseen and mental. Unless you have first hand experience of the process, you will be unable to grasp the duality that exists between the female and male persona. It permeates and alters absolutely every aspect of one's life. It is truely impossible to explain the reality of the changes in depth to others who have not experienced it, I just don't have the vocabulary to do so and those who have not undergone it, will not have an experience framework to understand it anyway..