[EvaMarie]

Hello to all:

I'd like to address an issue that I think is disrupting the forum, the attitude of mistrust between transwomen and non-trans men at Breast Nexus. Ironically, we are so far removed from talking about growing breast it's not even funny. When males seeking breast growth start at Breast Nexus they most likely will start with NBE, at some point one might decide NBE isn't enough and choose on transitioning. Prior to all that, using all the NBE tools here at BN including communicating with other (non-trans) men are deemed acceptable.

Well I always wanted more that just tits, I wanted feminization.... curves, reduced body hair, and relief from high levels of T.... While I think its possible there are men here that want an otherwise totally masculine body with feminine breasts I don't see many hairy chests in the picture section LOL.... Im sure for some it IS a "fetish" or whatever negative connotation you want to call it... I think this place is a great resource and support site for men or "men" who have a feminine side....

When does it becomes unacceptable to associate with men seeking breast growth after deciding on transition?, why then do they become the ones with the fetish. There's no existing "code of conduct" that communicating with other non-trans men will infect the well-being of being trans, (come on, that's nonsense) testosterone won't rub off or transfer telepathically. We can't let the fears or transphobia (yes, even from other trans) of a few dictate the flow of the forum.

I think its because once you decide to jump the fence for good, come out to the world as a woman and go at it full speed with everything you have including surgerys, living full time as a female ect.... Well Id say it's natural to want to totally reject masculinity... I know for me at first I went a bit overboard and I have the pics (wince) to prove it Many Im sure don't want to remember when THEY were in between and living with what at the time probably felt like some weird guilty shameful fetish or kink... I know it took me a LONG time to get past the idea that it was all just a fetish for myself....

I think a lot of TS women, especially those who transition later in life distort their own past narrative a bit.... I mean they become obsessed with proving to the world and themselves they are really women, "passing", "stealth", ect.... So they tend to not mention the fact they might have used to like watching sports, big V8's, hot rods, beer, shiny tools, guns, and other boy toys ect... I know for me there was a period where I just wanted it ALL gone, even considered trading out my male pit bull for a freaking cat LOL... It's taken some time but I now know its a good thing I can still do a brake job on my Jeep and it's even fun to play "dumb girl" at the parts counter with the guy trying to up sell me parts and telling him "My BF said just get the cheap brake pads and a hardware kit"... "Ahh Im sure he knows what he's doing" knowing I could totally take the guy to school regarding auto mechanics Hell I've even started drinking a cheap cold beer or two now and then

I support BOTH sides because I am BOTH sides, I am male, and I am transgendered female, which means I am gender fluid. Only, I identify more as male, even though my body says I'm more female........which is my goal.

I never could find peace with the idea of living in between, for me again it was all or nothing... BUT as things move along like I said I've somehow found peace with the old "male" parts of me Thing is I need to COMPLETELY transition physically and socially... But that's just me, I fully support anyone who wants to bend or blend the gender norms to whatever extent they are comfortable with and "Fuck Society"

Some non-trans see "trans-supremacy" being forced upon them and the forum, whether it's intentional or not it can cause some friction with non-trans men, I can understand that. I can also understand that transwomen might be feeling excluded from the rest of the forum. And, I can even understand that the genetic girls here can take exception to all the fuss on this side of the forum. Emotions are running high, regardless of that, the forum is open to all sides.

I used to be OK with "trans woman" but Im not anymore... Im just a woman who can't have kids with the wrong anatomy at birth.... I don't even like "genetic girls", there are fully reproductive XY "females" after all, chromosomes have nothing to do with it... Ive come to the conclusion that across the entire TG spectrum, "MtF and FtM" that its an "intersexed" condition thats not yet fully understood... Whatever it's just a part of the human condition, always has been and always will be...

All that said I at least can still identify with "men who want tits" or whatever... Im just happy people are free to be themselves here and there should be no casting judgement on anyone whoever they are....

No conspiracy exists, no lines to be drawn, no battle to be fought or won (we create the drama in our own minds). The forum will not be divided/split, it won't lean trans or non-trans, it's middle ground. First and foremost, it's for supporting breast growth. (Who am I to say all this?, nobody special, just a friend to the forum).

SO while Im way beyond just "breast growth" and NBE and sometimes feel like I don't really fit in here, I still like to come here and relate my experience as a transitioned female and give support to anyone wanting titties for whatever reason