Hi Dianna
Over the years I have been blessed (and I use that word with pride) with some incredible women in my life. They may not have had the physical strength of men, but what they could achieve would regularly exceeded my expectations. Put simply, I guess they just tried harder. And yes, they would ask for help when things were beyond their abilities. But surely that is a sign of wisdom? I have seen countless times a bloke struggle with something that is clearly beyond him, but was just too stubborn or proud to utter those scary words "give us a hand mate".
That said. I have also seen the Helpless Princess routine being milked for all it's worth too. What does surprise me is how often guys fall for it.
It does seem that our environmental and life experiences are quite different though. I too had to contend with bullying at school (like the majority on here I am guessing?). For a couple of years I couldn't make it out of the gate without having the ritual punch-up. And since then there have been the odd occasions where the potential for violence has been around, though never materialised. But in all honesty, I cannot remember the last time I was in a position where I would have to physically defend myself or those with me. True, I don't go to pubs or areas which have a troubled reputation, but in sleepy ole' England that's not exactly difficult. However, from your comments it seems your experience is very different. To have to live in a neighbourhood where the need to defend yourself is such a big factor must be really tough to live with. And if I am honest, I don't really have a point of reference to say anything on this.
Ok. Time for a contentious statement (I can almost feel the frothing at the screen as I type this ;-).
Men and women are not equal. They just aren't.
They are quantifiably and unarguably different.
But does that mean one is less valuable or less deserving of respect than the other? Emphatically NO!
Each gender has their own strengths and weaknesses. To try to make them as equal is denying the wonderful contrasts and complements that each have relative to the other. Yes, women will tend to be physically weaker then men. But men are more prone to mental illness and will die earlier. The list of where men and women are different is surprisingly long when you think about it. There are definite advantages for both sides of the equation. (I am sure this could make for a very "exciting" pole should someone be brave enough to attempt it. ;-)
So we are different. But viva la difference! :-)
Huggy.
Over the years I have been blessed (and I use that word with pride) with some incredible women in my life. They may not have had the physical strength of men, but what they could achieve would regularly exceeded my expectations. Put simply, I guess they just tried harder. And yes, they would ask for help when things were beyond their abilities. But surely that is a sign of wisdom? I have seen countless times a bloke struggle with something that is clearly beyond him, but was just too stubborn or proud to utter those scary words "give us a hand mate".
That said. I have also seen the Helpless Princess routine being milked for all it's worth too. What does surprise me is how often guys fall for it.
It does seem that our environmental and life experiences are quite different though. I too had to contend with bullying at school (like the majority on here I am guessing?). For a couple of years I couldn't make it out of the gate without having the ritual punch-up. And since then there have been the odd occasions where the potential for violence has been around, though never materialised. But in all honesty, I cannot remember the last time I was in a position where I would have to physically defend myself or those with me. True, I don't go to pubs or areas which have a troubled reputation, but in sleepy ole' England that's not exactly difficult. However, from your comments it seems your experience is very different. To have to live in a neighbourhood where the need to defend yourself is such a big factor must be really tough to live with. And if I am honest, I don't really have a point of reference to say anything on this.
Ok. Time for a contentious statement (I can almost feel the frothing at the screen as I type this ;-).
Men and women are not equal. They just aren't.
They are quantifiably and unarguably different.
But does that mean one is less valuable or less deserving of respect than the other? Emphatically NO!
Each gender has their own strengths and weaknesses. To try to make them as equal is denying the wonderful contrasts and complements that each have relative to the other. Yes, women will tend to be physically weaker then men. But men are more prone to mental illness and will die earlier. The list of where men and women are different is surprisingly long when you think about it. There are definite advantages for both sides of the equation. (I am sure this could make for a very "exciting" pole should someone be brave enough to attempt it. ;-)
So we are different. But viva la difference! :-)
Huggy.
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