[The First Aria]

I find this so sexually stereotypical of patriarchal culture that I not only did not choose anything in the poll, I will take the time to comment on it.
Household chores are not a gender thing unless you make it one. They are also not a domination/subservience thing unless you make it those things. Doing household tasks is like driving, shopping, eating, washing, defecating/urinating. It is all simply part of being alive, and what parts interest you have nothing to do with what parts need to be done. Earning money should not be a means of gaining control of anyone you actually care about. If you bring in money, it should be to the benefit of the whole, not as a stick to force compliance.
I have recently found myself wanting to be less and less involved in much of the trans/cross community simply because so much of it seems to thoroughly confuse the power/control/dominance/violence/pain themes with the gender/presentation themes. It just seems like so many people think that wanting to wear something considered feminine or have female bodily attributes must mean you want to be hurt physically or mentally. I will be very disappointed if this forum wanders down that road. We have always done a fair job here of keeping sexual themes secondary to the primary topic of growing or enlarging breasts regardless of motivation.
I should probably just stay away. I'm sure I'm just pissing into the wind on this.

Yes you are "missing the point", and rants are just "pissing into the wind". You should maybe choose a different saying other than being fluid, for I feel, at least on this, you are rather stiff.