I think comparing rejecting gender representation norms and gender roles of any particular society cannot be fairly compared to cannibalism, murder, or destruction. They are both literally and figuratively completely different concepts with different drivers and effects. It is a false analogy. No-one is suggested the complete breakdown of all society into brutal primitive anarchy. Striving for the common good and compassion for others does not preclude having your own ideas of who you are and how you present yourself in both appearance and behaviour. Having a choice doesn't mean you will choice horrible things. I wish the political right could get that through their thick skulls.
I hear and understand that you are unable to see yourself outside of the binary and the modern central european/american representation of it for both appearance and behaviour. That makes me sad, as it sounds like that model for living has taken you to a very unhappy life.
As to some of your other comments, there is nothing intrinsically wrong with a man in a skirt. Books and covers, dude. Sex roles do not depend on gender, although the games people play can certainly incorporate them. Nothing wrong with that either, unless it becomes destructive to one or more parties. Then the issue is the behaviours and choices made, not some imaginary innate quality of a gender or piece or clothing. The gender divide is not mostly about sex. They certainly are related in many ways, but correlation is not causation. Talk to any fully transitioned trans person to get a perspective on this. Sleeping with a transsexual is not a Bad Thing. Nuns can be tattooed and pierced too, how would you even know if one was? I saw a really cool meme years ago with a woman holding the front of a habit open to show her cleavage and the slogan was "Nuns. They have tits too." Fantastic! The power, dominance, control topics you raise are not a product of genitals or gender. Women and men both struggle with these things. These topics come up in gay and lesbian relationships too. They are human nature topics.
No-one is suggesting a world without rules. But I hope you would agree, some rules are sort-sighted and counter-productive, some are destructive, some serve devious purposes, and some are just plain pointless. The really sad part is when we just accept someone else's rules without evaluating them. You won't do yourself any favours promoting, defending, and strengthening those kinds of rules. I hope you can find your way to a more fulfilling experience, and find people who can be positive contributors to your life.
I know I sound very preachy. I honestly don't mean to , but I don't know how else to say these things.
I hear and understand that you are unable to see yourself outside of the binary and the modern central european/american representation of it for both appearance and behaviour. That makes me sad, as it sounds like that model for living has taken you to a very unhappy life.
As to some of your other comments, there is nothing intrinsically wrong with a man in a skirt. Books and covers, dude. Sex roles do not depend on gender, although the games people play can certainly incorporate them. Nothing wrong with that either, unless it becomes destructive to one or more parties. Then the issue is the behaviours and choices made, not some imaginary innate quality of a gender or piece or clothing. The gender divide is not mostly about sex. They certainly are related in many ways, but correlation is not causation. Talk to any fully transitioned trans person to get a perspective on this. Sleeping with a transsexual is not a Bad Thing. Nuns can be tattooed and pierced too, how would you even know if one was? I saw a really cool meme years ago with a woman holding the front of a habit open to show her cleavage and the slogan was "Nuns. They have tits too." Fantastic! The power, dominance, control topics you raise are not a product of genitals or gender. Women and men both struggle with these things. These topics come up in gay and lesbian relationships too. They are human nature topics.
No-one is suggesting a world without rules. But I hope you would agree, some rules are sort-sighted and counter-productive, some are destructive, some serve devious purposes, and some are just plain pointless. The really sad part is when we just accept someone else's rules without evaluating them. You won't do yourself any favours promoting, defending, and strengthening those kinds of rules. I hope you can find your way to a more fulfilling experience, and find people who can be positive contributors to your life.
I know I sound very preachy. I honestly don't mean to , but I don't know how else to say these things.