I have been on my feminization journey for almost 20 years now. (Damn, has it been that long) Anyway, 2 ex wives later, I have a wife that tolerates my journey. Some days more than others. She usually let's the "can I help you ladies" comments slides with a comment every so often that she hates people thinking we are a couple of old fat lesbians (which in some aspects we are, but that is a different story for a different day.
We talked about my growing breasts about 8 years ago, when we were exploring a lot of alternative sexual play. Her interest in that seemed to wane when she realized loss of erections was the trade off. (Something that does not bother me in the least, again a different discussion)
A couple of years ago we had a heated discussion about my feminization where she said she hated it, but knew it was something deep inside me that she could not change. She also said she missed her husband (sound familiar to some of you)
Today I shave nose to toes. Interestingly, she has stopped shaving for the most part. My various breast enhancement regimes have given me the breasts of a teen age girl, which my wife has noticed and commented on. I deny taking anything, but we know she knows. She knows I would love to live the rest of my life as a woman, but I do not transition completely now for her. I am taking the approach slow pressure relentlessly applied will win the day and gain her acceptance that our final years together will be lived as a couple of old lesbians. (BTW I have no desire to have SRS, just use NBE to kill my boy bits once an for all)