[MarisaG]

I appreciate all the suggestions about telling my wife, and I agree. It is one of the reasons i stopped the process for now. I know its unfair to leave her out of the loop, especially on something this big, but the hurdles of acceptance and personal fears and anxiety have kept me silent on this. I'm getting there, i just need to get over it and know that honesty will be the best thing no matter what the outcome. It ain't easy being insecure as a male, let alone admitting to yourself and then others that you have leanings towards being more female. The only way to stop the cycle is to break it i guess, and accept what comes along with it. Its always easier to think about it than to do it. Maybe there is another place on this forum where it has been discussed...the telling of significant others and how it went?