[flamesabers]

Alright, I'll do the best I can. I'm asking because I'm confused too. So, to get this straight the dichotomy is that one side of your crossdressing is "a [daring and aloof] solo interest geared toward pushing the limits" while the other one is "docile and cuddly that makes [you] want [physical closeness with someone]" I'm hoping that's right? Now, what I'm not understanding is what you mean exactly by the first part. How does being daring, aloof, and especially "pushing limits" somehow create a dichotomy with forming a friendship, physical or otherwise? You call these things a compelling reason to stay single for life? As of yet, I'm not seeing it. That's why I was asking for more clarification. I mean, lots of crossdressers whom I would consider perfectly daring have close or romantic relationships. So just how do these pushed limits dichotomize special relationships? What are they, specifically?

Yes, that sounds right. People have to be very driven to do a big project all by themselves, whether people do not have to be as determined or motivated when doing the same project with others.

The daring and aloof part of crossdressing for me doesn't seek approval from others or even cares what others think about crossdressing. I crossdress because I like to; there is no reason to get others involved in the activity. It's irrelevant if others love, hate or are indifferent to crossdressers. The former aspect is a loner in the literal sense. It's hard to form attachments to people when you're a loner.