[jamixoxo]

I'm thinking some of us do not relise how much effort we put throuout our lives to keep a cap on our GD. I used to work all the overtime I could, sometimes 80 hrs a week. Just to keep my self busy.

Very interesting to read someone else describe my coping mechanism

My wife and I just had our "frank" ("Francine"?) discussion... she's a smart cookie; so I wasn't hiding anything, but I wasn't talking either. I still feel bad about bringing some chaos to the marriage (I'm the "fixer", not the "breaker"), because it feels like a step forward for me, but not for us. Anyway, I'm happy that it looks like we're going to be together a long time... had a lot of tears over that! I very much count myself lucky... and very sorry it can't be that way for you

-j