[Dianna1395]

Can we still be Men ?
When my wife and I watched Danish Girl , which incidentally is not the best choice ?, although a good film, she raised a good point, its one thing being more female and having growth, that she did not mind and could understand, but she said
What she thought was scary was that he was lost completely to womanhood ie he was never her husband again at all,
Now for a full ts, there is most likely no choice and they have to be the true woman they are, but not always,
So this got me thinking for us twilights, can we still be Men, ignoring the bedroom parts,
What our wives or significant others need to see and know is that we are still the protector in the family, even if it means dashing after a burglar in bra and panties in the middle of the night ?
I know myself that even in full girl mode, I would be a lion in micro seconds if need be
Can we all say this ?
If we can then reassurance boundaries are perhaps very important ie to prove and show to our significant others and partners that we may not be 100% men , but we sure can still defend them and be there when the poo hits the fan ?
Thoughts ?

Julie

Hi, Julie,
I'm a bit binary on this one.
One of the perks of being a woman is, you don't need to be the defender. (Tell me again who is less valued as a sex?)

That being said, why should we have to protect? That's what the police are for, right...? (sarcasm, of course)
Actually, it's what a gun is for. TWO guns, in fact, His and Hers. Or His and his, or Hers and Hers, whatever works. We all have a duty to protect ourselves. It cannot be "outsourced."

One thing is, women supposedly aren't wired with "fight or flight" responses, but "Tend and befriend." (Not sure how that applies to protecting the children, though.) Supposedly, women try to turn a potential threat to their side by supporting that individual, or by incorporating that individual into the group.

Note that with weapons a woman can use effectively (gun, mostly) - that's not necessarily accurate, but they were talking the psychology...

Now, for me, I don't see a reason for it, but that's specific to me. It's more like, "I'm not here to protect her from you... I'm here to protect YOU from HER." She's 260, 5'6, and about as strong as I am. No training, but aggressive, nasty, and loud... I mostly figure she'd be the one to pop him, and then she'd likely not stop... I'd have to pull her off the pieces.
Which returns us to, why should we have to fight? Why are we supposed to be her protector any more? Women can be whatever they want, but males are still nothing but an ATM, Sperm Bank, and Protection service?
And for me specifically, why should I meet her needs, when she refuses to meet mine? (She's already told me she doesn't feel safe walking from the garage in our complex, to the door to the apartments, because it's too dark. And I'm not strong enough to protect her, anyway. At least she said that one privately... We won't get into her other charming comments.)

Maybe I'm just the wrong one to respond, but - What's the point of embracing femininity, if you have to jump back into the Protector/Provider role when she demands? It's freedom for her, slavery for him. I'll pass.

(All that said, Were she smaller than I am, I'd be far more aggressive in protecting her. Since she's not feminine, petite, or weak, I see no reason to be protective.)

-Dianna