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What our wives or significant others need to see and know is that we are still the protector in the family, even if it means dashing after a burglar in bra and panties in the middle of the night ?
I know myself that even in full girl mode, I would be a lion in micro seconds if need be
Can we all say this ?
If we can then reassurance boundaries are perhaps very important ie to prove and show to our significant others and partners that we may not be 100% men , but we sure can still defend them and be there when the poo hits the fan ?
Thoughts ?

Julie

Wearing a bra can be practical in such a situation. You could use your bra to choke out or to restrain the intruder.

Seriously though. Since I'm single I feel like an outsider to answer your questions, but here I go.

Your questions remind me of an earlier post I made a while ago:

Have you read the story "Retrieved Reformation?" It's about a criminal named Jimmy Valentine who's proficient with cracking safes. After he gets out of jail, he gets a new identity and starts to build a new life that's free of crime. He falls in love with a banker's daughter. Meanwhile the police think he's still robbing banks. Towards the end of the story, the nieces of his soon to be wife accidentally lock themselves in the bank's vault. The timer for the lock hasn't been set yet, so there is no way the employees can open the door. The love of his life begs him to do something to save the girls from death by asphyxiation. He wants to save the girls obviously, but the only way he can save them is to reveal his true identity by using the skills he utilized as a criminal who cracked safes.

Jimmy Valentine is the reformed criminal who has given up on his past life of crime. However, he still possesses the knowledge and abilities of a criminal, even though he doesn't actively engage in it anymore. Is he a law-abiding citizen now or a criminal who is in denial about his true identity? Does utilizing his criminal skills even though it's for a good purpose prove he's still a criminal at heart?

I think the question is how masculine and feminine are you, and how much of your life as a male are you carrying with you as you journey down the NBE path. Does pursuing NBE undermine your masculinity or vice versa? Does wanting to protect your wife make you less of a transwoman and more of a man?

It sounds like you're preoccupied with labels and identities. Perhaps you should take the simpler path of embracing who you are and leave it at that?