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Pansy

That sounds amazing but do you think your super wife should be,pre warned as well
Don't just shock her on hair day ?

Julie

I agree 100% with this one, the shock She gets might be more devastating than you want to handle or are prepared for.

Julie, Jannet,
Sorry, perhaps I didn't put that very well. I'm not intending to suddenly appear in front of them both and risk embarrasing either of them and potentially harming their friendship. One of the things we discussed whilst we were away was the necessity for both of us to communicate better and that is exactly what I will do at some suitable point between now and her next visit. Believe me, things are going too well atm to put it at risk.

If your anything like me, I tend to plan things like this two to three weeks in advance, them let her know just several days before the date. Then if it all goes west, I only have to hear about it for a few days, not two or three weeks.