[jannet.duff]

She said, "Well, if I was you, I would tell her that you have elected to feminize, for whatever reason.."

I mean, I had NO idea she knew, let alone had suspicions of my NBE..

I just had to share this with all. Maybe if there are anyone out there that is keeping it a secret, this might help you decide to let your S/O in on it and try to get his/her blessing.

Well, all I can say about that is it sounds like you dodged a bullet. ( luckily )

I do think it's important to let your spouse know what's going on before it gets too obvious. It's better to be open and know what you are expecting out of starting NBE. ( be it support or divorce )

No one can get away with it forever. It'll be interesting to read the follow up comments, after you have both had time to sit down and talk about it.