14-09-2016, 04:42 PM
(This post was last modified: 14-09-2016, 04:44 PM by The First Aria.)
Anyways, here is one of the suggestions the Therapist suggested.
To set a day and time if possible, to start the discussion. That way, you feel like you cant put it off any longer. Prep yourself by remembering what brought the two of you together. Including sexual attraction, mutual friends and the shared ideas and goals.
Also, remember the ups/downs of your life together. But definitely remember that it was a phase, and obstacles you both survived together. And this is just another phase of your life that should be easily overcome as well. And, if it's true, you should tell the other person that even though you are going through this. That the reasons you were attracted and fell in love with your SO has not changed.
Just like you don't love her less for NOT wearing makeup around the house on weekends, or that you don't love her MORE when she does. For isn't makeup just that? A crutch, a tool to make a person feel better about her self, or it's socially expected of her? Just because it's more socially acceptable does not make it an obligation to wear makeup 24/7. That's the same way you feel about when you want to dress up or be more feminine.
Now, for me.... I thought it was on the mark. A very loving, intelligent logical and yet from the heart way to explain things.
What say you?
To set a day and time if possible, to start the discussion. That way, you feel like you cant put it off any longer. Prep yourself by remembering what brought the two of you together. Including sexual attraction, mutual friends and the shared ideas and goals.
Also, remember the ups/downs of your life together. But definitely remember that it was a phase, and obstacles you both survived together. And this is just another phase of your life that should be easily overcome as well. And, if it's true, you should tell the other person that even though you are going through this. That the reasons you were attracted and fell in love with your SO has not changed.
Just like you don't love her less for NOT wearing makeup around the house on weekends, or that you don't love her MORE when she does. For isn't makeup just that? A crutch, a tool to make a person feel better about her self, or it's socially expected of her? Just because it's more socially acceptable does not make it an obligation to wear makeup 24/7. That's the same way you feel about when you want to dress up or be more feminine.
Now, for me.... I thought it was on the mark. A very loving, intelligent logical and yet from the heart way to explain things.
What say you?