[Jessica4581000]

I get told during our discusions that she wants sex with a man, the way a man does it with a women. So basicly, if I ever get prostate cancer and I have it removed, I am fucked.

One of the older ladies in our group had her prostate removed several years ago. As soon as she got her top and bottom surgery dates, the wife decided it was time to end the marrage. Even though there had been no normal male/female relationship for some time.  They are still friends, but now live separate lives.

I too am a prostate cancer survivor,  almost 5 years since diagnosed. I had the radical prostatectomy,  which included the seminal vesicles and some of the lymph nodes. Sex has certainly been difficult, a challenge, a source of frustration, and of course a pleasure with my beloved wife. Sometimes I need a little blue pill, sometimes not. Your Sex life is not over unless you give up on it, which it is easy to get frustrated and give up.
As I am going deeper into the rabbit hole with NBE, life is what I consider to be normal, so far- no changes down there, only upstairs so far.......certainly something I need to keep under control as I don't want to lose what I have fought and struggled to maintain for the past 5 yesrs.

I actually know a few people with the prostate removed. Possibility of sex, even with the blue pill is is just about 0% for them.. You are lucky.

When I was diagnosed with the cancer, just before Christmas in 2011, I felt the world just yanked my feet out from under me. Fortunately  (I realize now) I could not have any surgery for about 8 weeks in that after your prostate is biopsied, you have to wait for it to heal before you can remove it. That gave us the time to actually interview surgeons - which I highly reccomend everyone do no matter what is being done to your body. I quickly found out that it matters a great deal who you have operate on your body. I live in the suburbs of a major Midwest city, so I had many options. Some gave me no hope of ever achieving an erection again and I would most likely be incontinent for the rest of my life. After a few of these interviews I contacted my GP and said I want the best guy in this area to work on me and he referred me to one of the big teaching hospitals downtown . My surgeon is the head of Urology of that institution and performs around 1000 of these operations annually. He gave us much better odds on the incontinence issue and being able to obtain an erection. It is not a cakewalk surgery and it was not easy, but I'm not incontinent and Mr happy 
still does what he is supposed when needed, just no juice. But you have to work towards making things work  and it is easy to get discouraged and just give up- which I think a lot of guys may do.