[Allyson]

Wow Sophia!  So sorry I was not around while you were going through all this!  I hope and pray that this will be the gateway to a new understanding in your marriage- once she has time to wrap her head around it.  Seems like the more we try to plan these things, the less they are under our control.  If you are as happy now as you look in your latest pictures, she should see that as a good thing.  In any case, as we all are painfully aware, even if we are able to stuff the genie back into the bottle, it never stays for long.  The girl within wants out, and she will find a way.  I wish you and your wife the best as you move forward from here- but at least the topic is in the open now, which I would think is some relief.