[jannet.duff]

You are at least talking .. That is hopefull in its own right.

As for being outed in the group, not a snowballs chance in hell, not everybody in the group will be full-time, and those that are not want the same privacy that you want.

Although, I will admit after a while, you do get a case of fuckits. I was even in a local transgender tv program. My wife was all worried about people saying they saw "him" dressed up in a tv show last night, in reality if I'm not with my wife no one recognises me. Even people we have pointed to the show on line didn't recognise me, Even though they  knew I was in it.
( google - "in focus free to be me"