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With that in mind, and perhaps raising a different topic altogether, I have sometimes felt that the gender-flexing community gets too hung up on terminology.  There are many who readily take offense at the pronouns that are used, how they are addressed, etc.  I am much more relaxed about that stuff and try to focus on understanding what other people are trying to say.   Just my two bits.

Its about more than that, to be addressed as 'him/he' when dressed up, completely in makeup, breasts front and center. looking amazing.

Its nothing short of ignorance. You can see the obviousness of gender pronoun identity, but choose otherwise because one or two outlying features, challenge a social norm.(IE: stubble or male-esque body features)
Its not Fair to challenge some one's identity just for the outlined cause of are own affliction. 
We do not challenge the butch and hill-billy women, who look like men. we dont challenge the Metrosexual and FemQ's who look like women. There identity is clearly not close to what they are implying, via there clothing choices and features. 

They are accepted without question to there gender of choice. - Why are we not, why are we challenged, when we identify otherwise, then a normality laid out by phobic politicians a millennia ago.