[AliP]

  so i am still struggling with coming out to my wife. Fear, afraid of being alone all those feelings you ready about. I have finally agreed with myself it will be tomorrow night after we both have chilled out from work. I also use it as an excuse but when i ask her how her day was and she says a day from hell which is most days (she works in a high school) so i just power it down and i dont say anything. Its been 5 days since I started HRT. I need to tell her something.. i dont want dishonesty in our relationship. I am truly at a loss for words. I was going to use an article i read about coming out and the transition video that ultimately changed me forever. But i didnt know if that was overkill or seemed like it was rehersed. 
Any ideas or advise girls? 

Hugs,
Ali

My wife has known for a long time that I cross dressed, then I started taking herbs to " feminize my body". Which is where I'm at now. I was seeing a thera pist for about a half a Year,  then just stopped going for a different reason entirely. My goal with seeing the therapist was to get the clearance to use pharma and go the hrt route and be under a Dr's care.  While I'm seeing good results from PM and WP and etc, I'm still experimenting with my body (IMO). As im getting closer to retiring ( just turned 59) I told her I want Jessica to be a bigger part of our/my life. That started the waterworks and we were on a car trip at that point, so it was difficult to say the least.  But we got thru it and moved forward.  I should point out that I had prostate cancer surgery 5 years ago which basically left me almost impotent, so our sex life, such as it is, is different than it was pre surgery. But I'm cancer free and that's what matters.
My suggestion is to be honest, agree to seek therapy ( which I'm sure will come up...) and keep telling her it's not her , it's you and that it's her you love and want to grow old with.
Good luck.
Jessica

Well first off, I am really glad you are cancer free. That is what matters most! I also went the Herbs route but it only goes so far and you have to constantly wonder is it working or is my body temp a certain temp. Plus the herbs that help suppress Testosterone will only bring it down so far, not low enough to be completely effective. I gave that up, went to my therapist and got the letter to proceed and this Thursday will be one week on HRT. Now I just put a patch on and take my spiro everyday. I already had a high estrogen level, in fact too high my Endocrine doc told me the herbs aren't controlled as you need to maintain a certain level. I need to see a regular therapist, not one who specializes in writing the HRT letter. I found one in my area that takes my insurance so I plan on seeing them next week. Once I speak with them, then I will talk to my wife. I tried to tell her tonight but other things (distractions of life) got in the way. to say the least I am nervous.

Hugs,
Ali