[AliP]

If it helps, here is what i did.

I sat down and wrote a letter, i started with saying how much i loved her, and how much i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, but i have been holding a secret ever since before i even started school. The letter out lined how long i had been feeling like this, how I had used work and excessive overtime to try and keep this under control. The letter was only really 1/2 a sheet. But it let me put my thoughts down in a way that made sence.
Although i had already started NBE, i had decided ot was wiser not to come clean on that fact. I waited a few months untill after we had seen a few different therapists, ( all agreed this was not something that was not likely to go away ). Of course later on it was my Dr who suggested i go on HRT, beceause he thought herbs were dangerous. 
I can see that your in a different position, i could never start HRT unless my wife knew something before hand. Now, i am not suggesting you lie to your wife, but I suspect that admitting your on HRT is not going to help.
(How on earth to you hide that patch ?? It sticks out like a sore thumb.)

My patch is clear and only an inch by an inch and a half. I cant remember the last time we saw each other without clothes. Good points! First stop new therapist! Thanks Jannett!!

Hugs
Ali