[The First Aria]

Been with my wife 20+ years and she is much older than me. Women want to feel safe, secure, and cared for. I let her know that I will always take care of her, the house, animals, and the family. I also show her. I just upgraded her car lat year. She is retired, but I always make sure that she has money when going out during the day.

Sha also dreads anyone finding out about me, especially the kids and grandkids (from her previous marriage). I can't help you with this one only because I have not figured it out yet either...

It's tough, I certainly know that...  I wish things were different for those of us who have a difficult situation.  After all..  we know what we felt like when first married, and didn't realize what was going on as we progressed.  And I assume you are a little like me, in that you care for those around you and therefore just cannot "bulldog" your way into breaking hearts and relationships.  It's very tough, even if you rehearsed how to say it, when to say it.  It just never goes according to plan.

Thanks for sharing, and also Welcome to our little space  in heaven.