Thanks each, it`s not by any means a Comprehensive breakdown, just the main and common points mentioned by many women that I have asked as to why this behaviour would be seen in trans spouses, I`m sure in greater length conversations there would be other things of interest emerge too.
Oki, you said:
{{Oh the joy and the horror of transitioning as a half of a tight pair. I both envy you and feel sorry for you. But in the end I don't think I could take for long that horrified, disgusted, alien look on her adored face as she's thinking "Oh God no, not HER again..." }}
Fortunately for me, this is Not and nor has it been my situation with my wife, maybe part of me kinda knew this stuff already on some hidden level? perhaps I was just plain Lucky (I don`t beleive in luck though? LOL), or something else entirely? but I never had the Hot / Cold thing going on, I did have the not wanting to do all the things I wanted to do at the same time though, and yes it was kinda hard waiting for her to "catch up" so to speak, and only Once did I ever push my plan ahead faster than she was ready and that was getting my Name changed , I reasoned that since it was inevitable and there`s a min 2 year Real Life Experience required to get my GRC (Gender Recognition Certificate) that starting early was a sensible move.
But Credit where it`s due, my Wife is an absolute Rock! and my biggest supporter in this transition, often time going too fast for me! even down to her looking forwards to my SRS probably more than I am! LOL
I think perhaps one of the main differences was that my attitude was so much different than some of the others I read about.
I never viewed her as the Opposition, almost the Enemy to read some peoples stories, to me she`s my best friend in the entire world, why would I NOT tell her what was going on with me? she found out as soon as I found out, and we share our feelings with each other on Everything anyway, she was the First person i wanted to know, not the Last! LOL
And that remains true to this day, I don`t think my transition would have been anwhere near as smooth and painless as it has been if it wasn`t for her, that`s what love does, surely!?
Oki, you said:
{{Oh the joy and the horror of transitioning as a half of a tight pair. I both envy you and feel sorry for you. But in the end I don't think I could take for long that horrified, disgusted, alien look on her adored face as she's thinking "Oh God no, not HER again..." }}
Fortunately for me, this is Not and nor has it been my situation with my wife, maybe part of me kinda knew this stuff already on some hidden level? perhaps I was just plain Lucky (I don`t beleive in luck though? LOL), or something else entirely? but I never had the Hot / Cold thing going on, I did have the not wanting to do all the things I wanted to do at the same time though, and yes it was kinda hard waiting for her to "catch up" so to speak, and only Once did I ever push my plan ahead faster than she was ready and that was getting my Name changed , I reasoned that since it was inevitable and there`s a min 2 year Real Life Experience required to get my GRC (Gender Recognition Certificate) that starting early was a sensible move.
But Credit where it`s due, my Wife is an absolute Rock! and my biggest supporter in this transition, often time going too fast for me! even down to her looking forwards to my SRS probably more than I am! LOL
I think perhaps one of the main differences was that my attitude was so much different than some of the others I read about.
I never viewed her as the Opposition, almost the Enemy to read some peoples stories, to me she`s my best friend in the entire world, why would I NOT tell her what was going on with me? she found out as soon as I found out, and we share our feelings with each other on Everything anyway, she was the First person i wanted to know, not the Last! LOL
And that remains true to this day, I don`t think my transition would have been anwhere near as smooth and painless as it has been if it wasn`t for her, that`s what love does, surely!?