[The First Aria]

Unfortunately, i agree with Aria. My wife didnt sign up for this.

Every step forward I make is another nail in our marriage.

Another old axiom says.  " Prepare for the worst and celebrate the best!"  Tough to follow, but I think it fits somehow.  Some people have a very Cavalier attitude, in that on this forum some basically say "to hell with her, it's what I feel, and it makes me happy!"  That's fine, if you are an uncaring Neanderthal with a lot of selfishness....   But after all...  There was love, hopes desires and a wanting to be a family.  As I feel about it.  There was no way I knew this would/could happen to me.

I know how it screws with my brain, just imagine your partner's.  If there was EVER any love, you have to have some feelings or your just a "dead fish" that was left on the bank of the river to dry up and fester.