[Nightshade]

I think it's really important that people in these communities give each other space to explore who they are. It's very easy to want to slap a label on things (transgender, crossdresser, autogynephilia, non-binary, etc.) That does serve a purpose, but it can also be limiting.

We've all been repressed by society and that creates lasting wounds. It's easy to take it out on each other. I know I'm bitter and jealous of the young trans women who pass (even before hormones sometimes!). I know that I'd also be jealous of people on Rx hormones if I wasn't able to get them (I still have 2 months before my first doctor appointment! And I'm almost 40).

One quick thing about AG, it does have a very sad history in the trans community. I'm not here to word police or anything like that, but if anyone would like to know more about this, Julia Serano writes about this in her book "Whipping Girl" and more recently here:
http://www.juliaserano.com/av/Serano-CaseAgainstAutogynephilia.pdf

One thing I do not understand. Surely, if this was a sexual thing then once the hormones and the AA's took effect, then the desire would drop ??
I have zero sex drive, it takes a lot of effort to even make him wake up, and i get no enjoyment from it at all.

You're assuming the people doing the studies/treatments actually care about transgender people.