[PaulaJ]

well I can`t imagine ANY Woman wanting to have Boy parts as part of their anatomy, and I have asked quite a few of my girl friends and they all agree too, they would hate it! I`m just no different to them really in feeling this way.
it might be ok for a giggle once in a while if it was something you could undo easily, and I probably would have joined them in that had I have been born with the right parts as they were, there`s nothing inherantly Wrong with penises, they just belong on a woman
You`re own brain tells you that, it will expect something else to be there, it might not know What that something is, but it will KNOW it certainly shouldn`t be a penis! and having one will feel embarasing, disgusting and you`ll view it as a deformity like a tumor.
the act of sex (if you`re ever comfortable enough with a partner to get that far), in a male role will not come naturally to you either, it`ll be a deliberate mechanical thing, the whole "You`ll know what to do" instinct is simply not there, it`ll feel wrong at best.
this is just how it is, for me and some other transsexuals.

but when you consider the topic title and the fact that it IS a very broad spectrum, you`ll see that there is no Right or Wrong way of being trans, if you`re gender variant in whatever way, you`re Trans! it`s that simple.
so you really have nothing to worry about, nor have the porn actors, if thats how they roll then Fine as long as they`re happy and comfortable to do that, then Great!  

Thanks for explaining that perspective. Some of it does resonate with me, I feel very awkward in the male role in dating, in the bedroom though, I am fine. I'm non-binary/genderfluid, this is becoming more clear as time goes on.

The labels aren't crazy, though there are too many of them. Still, that attitude, or worse, is one that one gets if one uses them, especially outside of trans friendly spaces. With non-binary now being a legal marker in some states, perhaps they will consolidate.

I'm personally kind of hung up on whether to use transgender or non-binary to describe myself. The problem really is that people make assumptions when you use any of them. Although I am non-binary, I prefer she/her pronouns, and dress feminine leaning androgynous, and want to present even more feminine once I am further along with electrolysis.