[kimi9r]

LOL - yeah I've got three people in me as well - if I get the chance today I might post a new thred on the subject.

OK... trans and sissy... interesting combination... not trying to be argumentative, or derogatory here, so apologies if it seems that way...

Trangenderism is a biological, psychological, genetic, imbalance of some form, affecting both genetically born males and females, that's either officially diagnosed, or "uncovered", by some means - or may never be known about at all.

I can see that cross-dressing, although typically considered by society as a whole, as some kind of fetish, could be one mechanism by which someone, with unknown (or known) TG-ism, could be exposed to, could experiment, could push the boundaries a bit - kind of a "suck it and see" approach (if you'll pardon the pun). Maybe it starts out being more of a sexually driven thing (and I may be opening up a can of worms here), which enables someone to "see the light", or not, as the case may be. Maybe it's why so much purging occurs, fear, lack of acceptance of the reality of being trans, or acceptance that it's just a fetish with all the good, or guilty, feelings that come with fetishes.

I'm not saying that being a CD must be one of those stages of M to F, but I can see that it's a valid step along the way for some, opening the door to a different world - it certainly was for me.

But I'm still not sure that being a sissy belongs on that "path". I'd see it more as a character trait, a persona, for want of a better word, that someone may naturally align with, or adopt, or encourage for some reason. Not all straight males are macho; not all gay males are camp, effeminate and outrageous; and the same can be said for genetic women, not all are homely mummy types, not all are "go get 'em" kick ass bosses - sorry being very stereotypical with those descriptions.

I'm bi, and I've known that for a long time, but you wouldn't know it if you met me - I'm not camp, and I'm not macho, I sit somewhere in the middle. However, from a transgender perspective, I aspire to being a cougar-style woman, sexy and sassy - not the boss, but maybe the boss' personal assistant, stylishly dressed, a bit past their prime, but still glamorous and fuckable (oh, as if that were even possible LOL) and the one you have to convince in order to get that appointment - not a girly girl.

But that's me, they're the character traits I align with - but I certainly wouldn't expect that all TGs have to go through that stage as part of their journey. I don't see anything wrong with being a sissy, except for the derogatory aspect of it, but I do see it more as a personality trait, not a stage/phase. 

Maybe that's what the original poster/author was describing, their personal journey, and how they rationalized, or made sense, of the whole thing?