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Thanks, Shirazmn, for this long, thoughtful post. I don't know your source, but I've read that around 50% of men have gynecomastia, which should normalize it. But there are socially constructed ideas of maleness. In the past I have helped a number of men discover the capacity of their breasts and nipples for erotic pleasure--they had never thought of them in this way. It was a revelation. Some of these men were in their 50s. I think it's tragic when men often with beautiful breasts that would be the envy of many on this forum, have surgery to "cure" their gynecomastia, leaving scars that reveal their earlier state. 
I hated my breasts when I was younger, but happily they were not an issue for the women I have been intimate with. Two of them adored them. As I have grown older, and my breasts have grown larger, I have come to see them as a wonderful gift. They are a treasure that I reserve for intimate moments of lovemaking with my wife or for my very special solo nipple orgasm sessions.