[Heaven's Night]

Becoming undetactable is quite a job to do. Blending in works the best. The way it seems to go is kinda strange, its like a checklist people have in their minds and when enough boxes are ticked, they read us right and everybody has a slightly different list to check boxes on. Advice like dress to your age, for the occasion and location etc. are good ones as its all aiming for blending in. 

I have went weirdly the other way as some times I get dolled up and totally not dress my age and end up pulling attention instead of being invisible. Also I often dress up much more feminine than most Finnish women do, people here are very casual and laid back in their daily lives, so anything a bit more dolled up sticks out. I have been very lucky with it as I pass perfectly at all times regardless of what I'm wearing, but I'm a bit of an outlier with this.

Then there's the huge huge part of what makes or breaks, your voice is super important! Even if everything else is spot on, having a too deep voice can mess it all up right away, so voice training is very important and vocal chord surgery if needed. Another is body proportions, this is a nasty one because most trans women don't have much hips to mention about and that's what helps so much, even more than boobs, but the moment your body shape starts to register as female all the time, it gets super easy. Along with that clothes start to fit better, there's a reason for why womens clothes have certain designs in them. I've fallen in love with dresses as they now fit so well. This is where BN forum becomes invaluable of course.

Anyway, details are important. Voice is a huge factor. Body shape is another and the rest is a skill that can be practiced and learned.