This is rough... I read the whole thing but I was too busy to reply right away. Its a hard spot to be, its obvious your wife isn't ready to accept you doing much more body mods, full transition would likely wreck everything, but as that's not what you're going for, what to do with this?

As others said, if your wife would be into it too, then it would be a shared interest and it could turn into really hot hobby... But that's not happening? Gosh what to do with this, its difficult.

I can offer my empathy for you of course, but no solutions. Its very much like a situation many trans women face when coming up with harsh realities of cis hetero relationships. But at least for you there might be some way to deal with this, unlike those to whom its absolute must and life and death situation.

Hey Shirazmn, how are you doing in general? Are you still on Discord? Don't be a stranger, come chat some time, its been ages since.