07-12-2011, 07:17 AM
Arnold,
I wish everyone here only the best, so, please don't construe these comments as anything other than my heartfelt observances and experiences.
1st, this being possibly your first post, welcome. Would you mind telling folks why you're doing this, and where you expect to go with it? It may make a huge difference in the advice you will be given.
Not having given your age, I, myself am going to "guess" that you are younger than quite a few of us here. If I'm wrong, please correct me.
2nd, I would offer, that in my 61 years, there have been damn few things that I felt I knew absolutely for sure would happen, that actually DID, and whatever plans I laid out usually were very modified by the time they actually played out. I'm trying to say that nothing goes as planned, and 95% of lifes' occurences are mostly out of your control. A large spectrum of life revolves around the pursuit of happiness, and not only yours. I'm not being the least bit bitter, but my first wife sounded like your "partner". Getting divorced after 3 children and 11 years of marriage had never been a consideration when I got married!! Just an example of how quickly and massively situations change. Could be anything, job loss, money problems, or a new love interest for your "partner", or even you. Trying to tell you that this will be one helluva big problem for her to deal with, and no possible way to predict how she will react, either now, or later. She may just decide later that she deserves a more "normal" relationship, and that she won't get it with you. Or simply get bored, and want something different At that point, I could only hope that no children will be involved.
If I'm wrong in "assuming" you're younger, then you should have enough experience to understand what I've just said. Tread very carefully, in either case. It's not only your sanity at stake here, but hers' as well.
Last, I'm going to refer you to an on-going thread here, called "T" going.. Going", and ask you to pay close attention to the information Bryony has given us there. She made reference to Androgen levels in the womb. I'm no endocrinologist, but It seems you should be concerned about this as much as your sperm count and quality. Your sperm count could be fine, and of worldclass quality, but if your androgen level is low, could you be creating another trans person?
I stand to be corrected, and if wrong, will be happy for the info. But, think this through very, very carefully. Patti
I wish everyone here only the best, so, please don't construe these comments as anything other than my heartfelt observances and experiences.
1st, this being possibly your first post, welcome. Would you mind telling folks why you're doing this, and where you expect to go with it? It may make a huge difference in the advice you will be given.
Not having given your age, I, myself am going to "guess" that you are younger than quite a few of us here. If I'm wrong, please correct me.
2nd, I would offer, that in my 61 years, there have been damn few things that I felt I knew absolutely for sure would happen, that actually DID, and whatever plans I laid out usually were very modified by the time they actually played out. I'm trying to say that nothing goes as planned, and 95% of lifes' occurences are mostly out of your control. A large spectrum of life revolves around the pursuit of happiness, and not only yours. I'm not being the least bit bitter, but my first wife sounded like your "partner". Getting divorced after 3 children and 11 years of marriage had never been a consideration when I got married!! Just an example of how quickly and massively situations change. Could be anything, job loss, money problems, or a new love interest for your "partner", or even you. Trying to tell you that this will be one helluva big problem for her to deal with, and no possible way to predict how she will react, either now, or later. She may just decide later that she deserves a more "normal" relationship, and that she won't get it with you. Or simply get bored, and want something different At that point, I could only hope that no children will be involved.
If I'm wrong in "assuming" you're younger, then you should have enough experience to understand what I've just said. Tread very carefully, in either case. It's not only your sanity at stake here, but hers' as well.
Last, I'm going to refer you to an on-going thread here, called "T" going.. Going", and ask you to pay close attention to the information Bryony has given us there. She made reference to Androgen levels in the womb. I'm no endocrinologist, but It seems you should be concerned about this as much as your sperm count and quality. Your sperm count could be fine, and of worldclass quality, but if your androgen level is low, could you be creating another trans person?
I stand to be corrected, and if wrong, will be happy for the info. But, think this through very, very carefully. Patti