06-02-2012, 07:49 PM
I wanted to say that Pansy-Mae's comments are very good, and in my experience, completely accurate.
I would suggest that unless you are trying to create grounds for divorce, then you really do need to broach the topic with your wife before you go very far with this. She will notice. She already has noticed changes in your behaviour, guaranteed. She may not have it figured out, but I would guess she can imagine worse things than the truth so don't let that happen. If you toss trust on the trash heap before you even start, your goose is cooked.
Have you considered trying breast forms instead of actually growing breasts? It sounds to me like you are having urges of a sexual nature, but not like you are committed to what is usually a difficult path that often has lots of tears in it. If the cross-dressing thing isn't up for discussion, then making physical changes that aren't reversible doesn't seem like a good idea from where I am sitting.
Whatever path you choose, keep in mind you have lots of time. 42 is plenty young. Maybe postpone taking action. Between her hormonal changes, a new child (and don't kid yourself, she noticed about your shaving) and your changes, perhaps you might want to let things settle down some in order to make it easier for her to handle this. Don't overload her with big emotional changes. It will also give you more time to learn about this and decide if it is really a path you want to be on. Good luck with whatever you choose!
I would suggest that unless you are trying to create grounds for divorce, then you really do need to broach the topic with your wife before you go very far with this. She will notice. She already has noticed changes in your behaviour, guaranteed. She may not have it figured out, but I would guess she can imagine worse things than the truth so don't let that happen. If you toss trust on the trash heap before you even start, your goose is cooked.
Have you considered trying breast forms instead of actually growing breasts? It sounds to me like you are having urges of a sexual nature, but not like you are committed to what is usually a difficult path that often has lots of tears in it. If the cross-dressing thing isn't up for discussion, then making physical changes that aren't reversible doesn't seem like a good idea from where I am sitting.
Whatever path you choose, keep in mind you have lots of time. 42 is plenty young. Maybe postpone taking action. Between her hormonal changes, a new child (and don't kid yourself, she noticed about your shaving) and your changes, perhaps you might want to let things settle down some in order to make it easier for her to handle this. Don't overload her with big emotional changes. It will also give you more time to learn about this and decide if it is really a path you want to be on. Good luck with whatever you choose!