06-06-2012, 02:50 PM
Beverly.rose, it was very nice to read your posts, and in particular the lengthy one in this thread. It makes me feel good inside to hear you are having such great success with moving on from this stage. It was a stepping stone for you, and it is truly heart-warming to hear you are doing so well at adapting.
We all benefit from hearing about your experiences. Even those who challenge them do, please don't let it put you off visiting us once in a while. I for one am fine with just hearing how things have gone for you and don't need to ask you to re-evaluate parts of it for me. I am certain you do plenty of evaluating and re-evaluating. Your post tone certainly sounds like you are fully committed to your path. It sounds like much of your anxiety and many of your doubts are significantly resolved and that is wonderful.
I do agree that your trajectory in this takes you farther and farther from us as far as your goals and processes. But I hope you don't feel you have to distance yourself from those of us staying in the non-binary freak zone. We will likely always share at least the emotional issues arising from not being one of the apparently happy binary sexual entities. I do understand that you need to move forward and not live in the past.
I spend a lot less time on the forums and websites myself these days. I think it is because in my own much smaller way, I have achieved what I set out to achieve. Other than the social piece of it, I also have all the answers I need and people who don't want to read historical posts (not ancient history, just the last month's worth for current info and thinking, folks!) no longer entice me into repeating what has been said many times. I do sometimes find some emotional support in reading about others who have similar troubles to myself but let's face it, there really is a wide spectrum of issues, desires, and perceptions in our group. It's actually one of those awesome aspects of us as a group.
I occasionally think about doing up an FAQ for our forum section but then there would be the maintenance part of it which I'm not sure I want to commit to. Does the forum software even provide a mechanism for authoring and maintaining an FAQ, or would it just wind up as a sticky post?
We all benefit from hearing about your experiences. Even those who challenge them do, please don't let it put you off visiting us once in a while. I for one am fine with just hearing how things have gone for you and don't need to ask you to re-evaluate parts of it for me. I am certain you do plenty of evaluating and re-evaluating. Your post tone certainly sounds like you are fully committed to your path. It sounds like much of your anxiety and many of your doubts are significantly resolved and that is wonderful.
I do agree that your trajectory in this takes you farther and farther from us as far as your goals and processes. But I hope you don't feel you have to distance yourself from those of us staying in the non-binary freak zone. We will likely always share at least the emotional issues arising from not being one of the apparently happy binary sexual entities. I do understand that you need to move forward and not live in the past.
I spend a lot less time on the forums and websites myself these days. I think it is because in my own much smaller way, I have achieved what I set out to achieve. Other than the social piece of it, I also have all the answers I need and people who don't want to read historical posts (not ancient history, just the last month's worth for current info and thinking, folks!) no longer entice me into repeating what has been said many times. I do sometimes find some emotional support in reading about others who have similar troubles to myself but let's face it, there really is a wide spectrum of issues, desires, and perceptions in our group. It's actually one of those awesome aspects of us as a group.
I occasionally think about doing up an FAQ for our forum section but then there would be the maintenance part of it which I'm not sure I want to commit to. Does the forum software even provide a mechanism for authoring and maintaining an FAQ, or would it just wind up as a sticky post?