[Marina Kits]

Doodlebug, I think even if you are both GD and intersex, there are still some issues to resolve. For example, would your perspective be that you have GD because you're intersex? Or would you consider the two independent of each other?

Independent

I get the impression that being intersex would be a convenient explanation for why you have GD. In other words, intersex would be the culprit for your GD, and not your gender identity. The people around you and perhaps society at large may be more accepting of your GD and may even pity you if that was the case. After all, society or whoever may see you as a man who identifies and likes being a man, but has GD only because he was born intersex.

Yes, I think having klinefelter's would be a convenient explanation and that is, for some reason, what I want. Perhaps it's the easiest solution to my dilemma.

I think the larger question is how do you feel about yourself. Do you wish you could make your GD disappear just like that and enjoy being and living as a male? Or do you accept and maybe even cherish your female identity as an important part of who you are, despite the unhappiness this conflict creates for you?

You have asked a very hard question and have nailed my two demons perfectly. My initial thought is that I (emphasis on I) don't really have a problem with my female desires and tenancies but I feel pressure from somewhere to "fix" them, like I'm not SUPPOSED to be this way or it's some sort of illness or defect. Does that make any sense? Your questions are revealing my own confusion so I can only imagine how unsure of myself I must look to you. I guess I want someone or something to tell me I'm OK. I would like some justification for the way I am and for that to be very compelling. ...I never thought I was this insecure about all this until now and I'm kind of fearful of what I've revealed to everyone. Is it OK to be confused here?