[Marina Kits]

Can't be solved though because the issue of being socially acceptable lies with the accepters, not the acceptees and no amount of soul searching on the part of the acceptee will change any accepter.

That's a really good word sfem. I know it's true but reading it bent my thinking in a good way. Thanks

I think what you're saying makes sense. You don't personally object to your female desires, but perhaps due to external expectations (real or perceived), whether it be from family, religion or society, you feel you aren't living up to others' standards. I think that's a tough position to be in. You don't want to disappoint or embarrass those closest to you, but at the same time you want to be honest with who you are. I think that's why using the condition of being intersex is so convenient for you. It resolves this dilemma without forcing you to have to choose one path over the other.

Wow, well said... again. So, all these comments have had me thinking all day and I it appears the essence of my problem is acceptance from others. I know I have GD, I fully accept that and at times I even like it just a little. My wife accepts it to a great degree and I know my Creator is well aware of it and still accepts me. Now for the rest of my circle... This wont be easy for me because I've always been a bit of a misfit who wants to be popular. I know I don't have to announce it to the world but if I'm going to let the little girl inside me out to play, and she REALLY wants to play, someone's going to notice. And when they notice, I'll need the confidence to withstand rejection should it come my way.