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Apologies for the very direct and graphic explanation below --- I am trying to clearly convey some delicate issues and simple common words can do this. Hope I have not offended anyone.

Just read your note above, and the excerpt is what I want to comment on:

I have NO DOUBT that, if as you say, your "stamina" is a problem, it is highly likely due to the addition of SP. My experience w SP was that my erections were lesser intensity almost immediately. As time went on, my fluids were less and they were clear, and very certainly my "power" was waning quickly. By six months I passed a point of "no return", and at that point my ability to have an erection was totally gone and happily never to return (but I was still able to be pleasured and able to have ejaculate --- but it was in the form of being pleasured orally -- or anal intercourse --- and stimulated as if I had a clitoris, which was so very cool.) The size of my "thingie" and my overall "package" had diminished to be very very small, which again to me was very sexy and desirable. However, I know that is not for everyone. Just be aware.

SP can be either very potent in some people (like me and apparently like you) and yet in others seemingly having no impact.

My point is that, if you are SP-responsive, be VERY careful of both dosage and time on the stuff, because you may get to a point of permanent male-dysfunction and not be able to maintain your erection ---- if this is important to you or your lover please use caution.

(NOTE: Apologies for the specific and at times graphic descriptions above --- it was the simplest way to convey real issues and I hope I have not offended in my forthright response. English should be used to clarify rather than obfuscate!!)

I would like to chime in with my experience of using pm (but not sp) for a year.

Erections are still possible for me, however I have to be in the mood to get aroused. Thankfully, erections no longer come at a drop of a hat for me. If I lose focus and get distracted, the desire and erection quickly fades away. Every once in awhile my sex drive seems to spike suddenly, but otherwise I mostly have the mood of indifference towards sex, porn, mastrubation, etc. Pre-NBE days, ejaculation was the most pleasurable part for me. Now it's the stimulation and build-up that I like the most.

Doodlebug, maybe just taking pm without sp may be the way for you to pursue NBE and have still a sexual relationship with your spouse?