[Misty0732]

I have some questions for the "inbetweenies" in regards to the gender spectrum. How do you feel during a conversation when someone refers to you as a man or when you check off the male box when filling out a form? Has brain rewiring and/or taking NBE herbs changed your feelings on this? Do you feel more or less self-conscious about this now that your'e pursing NBE?

Personally, I have no issue with being identified as a "male". I recognize that the vast majority of the world, whether you're talking about other people, governments, or organizations do *not* recognize even the existence of "inbetweenies". In the world's eyes I best fit the "male" category.

The only other person (outside of this forum) who even has an inkling of my "inbetweenness" is my wife, and she is still quite uncomfortable with the concept. Even the hard-core TG/TS community doesn't want to acknowledge that you can be "inbetween". I think that's because they are struggling for acceptance and the idea that someone can be inbetween muddles the issue considerably.

I believe that someday the concept will be out in the open and the use of "gender" may largely disappear (or perhaps an "inbetween" or "other" choice will be accepted on forms, etc.). I also believe that discussion probably won't happen in my lifetime. I am not a social activist and not trying to advance this cause. Also, using PM calms me to the point where I don't feel I need social acceptance outside my close circle. To everyone else, I am "male", and at least for now that is OK.

Misty