[Marina Kits]

Here's a twist on the same general topic. So, sometimes I'm talking to my wife about what I'm learning here and for whatever reason, I need to tie a person to it. I might say, "Byrony thinks that gluten causes lots of digestion problems." "HE says we should stop eating gluten" or "SHE says we should stop eating gluten." Would you rather be referred to as HE or SHE? And if I'm talking to you personally, would you want me to THINK of you as a female or male or in-between? Or are you comfortable with me assigning that designation to you however my mind sorts it out?

I think for myself, I'm OK with you referring to me as a male but I'd want you to KNOW, and treat me as if I'm really in the middle somewhere. If we were having lunch together, I'd be disappointed if you didn't treat me and relate to me as if I'm female because that's what I identify with emotionally. For example, it's easy to hurt my feelings, I want to feel loved, I want to connect deeply with you - on an emotional level. I'd rather NOT talk about superficial things like weather or sports, etc. And if it was in an appropriate way and setting (strictly platonic), I'd kinda like a hug and occasional touch ...like women do amongst themselves. So you can call me male and refer to me as HE and HIM, but I'd want you to treat me much more like a female.