[Marina Kits]

Thanks for posting that Julie. I think it's a reasonable attempt to define us and I didn't see anything that I can object to too strongly. I understand the need to create boxes along with typical protocols for each box BUT everyone has to realize that not every person will fit into a box. I think that's where things get messy. "I don't quite know where to put you so I think I'll put you ...HERE!" That just doesn't work.

As for myself, I'd love to be in the transsexual box. I've wished desperately as far back as my memory goes, that I could have been born a girl. And IF I was free to do whatever I wanted without consequence to others, I'd take the hormones and have the surgeries necessary to make me a passing female. ...But I'm not free. I have a wife who married a groom and doesn't want it any other way. And I have two kids that I strongly believe, need one female parent and one male parent to grow up healthy and well adjusted. I have a good life and the right thing for me to do is to honor the commitments I already made. I made a mistake in my teens but to correct it would cost too much. I should have pursued transition then.

So, I guess that makes me a wannabe transsexual who's compromised by choosing to live as a transgenderist. ...Where's my box?