[sfem]

If your spouse/so tends to polarized views of things, this article and the second item with hand-written notes might well be very helpful. I actually think it has enough value I will add some links to that material to the blog site. The handwritten notes were by Phyllis Frye, the trans Texas judge. ( http://www.transadvocate.com/phyllis-frye-lifetime-achievement-award.htm )

[edit: added link to blog post]
The blog post is at:
http://sfemblog.wordpress.com/2013/11/17/trangenderist-label-and-articles-to-help-understand-the-concept/