18-11-2013, 04:08 AM
I feel your pain fwoodhull. And I know the battle you're fighting all too well. But I must say, I find it kind of ironic that you've named your thread "...roadblocks...". Ya know, roadblocks are meant to stop you from going down a road because it contains hazards or is even impassable for some reason right? 
...I feel you pain, really I do. I'm married and have kids and would love to "go all the way" ...but I can't / wont or whatever. I couldn't do that to my wife and kids - it seems incredibly selfish to me let alone the possible termination of ones career. It SEEMS to me you have little choice but to find a compromise like I have done. I wont have SRS because my wife wants my junk left alone and I wont cross dress in public such that it draws attention to me because that would embarrass her and subject my kids to ridicule from their peers. In exchange for those concessions, I'm allowed to take herbs, grow my hair out and strive towards androgyny.
You said your marriage is rocky, mine was moderately so, but since I began bearing my soul to my wife about my deep feelings, we have found a new level of intimacy that has drastically improved our marriage. The more she really "gets it" the more compassion she has for me which makes me cherish her more and more which makes her deeply happy, etc. Furthermore, the PM, SP and spearmint have altered my mood and makes me a much more pleasant person to be around. She freely acknowledges that as well. I think she's beginning to grasp the amazing fact that she has a pretty unique package. Emotionally, I'm a lot like one of her girlfriends and physically... well, you get the picture.
I don't want to discourage you if you feel you really need to go down the transition road. Only you know for sure but consider the cost carefully as well as the alternatives. I'm on your side no matter which way you need to go. I can elaborate more if what I've said resonates with you but I need to go be with the family right now. Best of wishes Fwoodhull.
...I feel you pain, really I do. I'm married and have kids and would love to "go all the way" ...but I can't / wont or whatever. I couldn't do that to my wife and kids - it seems incredibly selfish to me let alone the possible termination of ones career. It SEEMS to me you have little choice but to find a compromise like I have done. I wont have SRS because my wife wants my junk left alone and I wont cross dress in public such that it draws attention to me because that would embarrass her and subject my kids to ridicule from their peers. In exchange for those concessions, I'm allowed to take herbs, grow my hair out and strive towards androgyny.
You said your marriage is rocky, mine was moderately so, but since I began bearing my soul to my wife about my deep feelings, we have found a new level of intimacy that has drastically improved our marriage. The more she really "gets it" the more compassion she has for me which makes me cherish her more and more which makes her deeply happy, etc. Furthermore, the PM, SP and spearmint have altered my mood and makes me a much more pleasant person to be around. She freely acknowledges that as well. I think she's beginning to grasp the amazing fact that she has a pretty unique package. Emotionally, I'm a lot like one of her girlfriends and physically... well, you get the picture.
I don't want to discourage you if you feel you really need to go down the transition road. Only you know for sure but consider the cost carefully as well as the alternatives. I'm on your side no matter which way you need to go. I can elaborate more if what I've said resonates with you but I need to go be with the family right now. Best of wishes Fwoodhull.