It seems that people always seem to want what they can't have. It's par for the human course.
There was a time I thought I'd head down the TS path, because it looked like the only way to get to where I wanted, which was to dress however I pleased and more or less pass for female. As it turned out, however, my life turned in a direction that made it possible. TS is no longer something I'd consider.
It seems so obvious now, in retrospect, but there is such short shrift given to transgenderism in the literature that it was easy to miss.
Now that I have what I actually wanted, it's almost ho-hum. It is certainly made easier by the fact that acceptance came from all sides.
You are, however, in a more difficult position than I started from -- wife, kids, military -- and so seem a greater distance from whatever goal you may have. It's easy to distinguish whether objects are 5 feet or 50 feet from you; it's more difficult to tell whether they are 5,000 or 6,000 feet away. Does that make sense?
So be careful what you wish for. Pining for things one can't have is truly a path of misery. Sometimes it's easier to decide to want what you *can* have, and then go get it.
There was a time I thought I'd head down the TS path, because it looked like the only way to get to where I wanted, which was to dress however I pleased and more or less pass for female. As it turned out, however, my life turned in a direction that made it possible. TS is no longer something I'd consider.
It seems so obvious now, in retrospect, but there is such short shrift given to transgenderism in the literature that it was easy to miss.
Now that I have what I actually wanted, it's almost ho-hum. It is certainly made easier by the fact that acceptance came from all sides.
You are, however, in a more difficult position than I started from -- wife, kids, military -- and so seem a greater distance from whatever goal you may have. It's easy to distinguish whether objects are 5 feet or 50 feet from you; it's more difficult to tell whether they are 5,000 or 6,000 feet away. Does that make sense?
So be careful what you wish for. Pining for things one can't have is truly a path of misery. Sometimes it's easier to decide to want what you *can* have, and then go get it.