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JulieTG, only you can make you feel validated or comfortable with yourself. There is no-one who can make you believe you are fine, if you don't already have the ability to feel it inside. Look inside, see who you are, and learn to accept it. Love yourself if you can. Be encouraged by all the wonderful examples set by the great variety of contributors to this forum and others. You have male components, female components, and plenty of stardust. Truly trivial things like what clothing you like, how you sit, stand, or walk, and how you like your sex are not what define you. You decide your own worth, and you decide what is okay for you. If you can't stop worrying about how others perceive you, or how you feel about their evaluation of you, then start wearing a full ear to ear smile all the time. At least you'll confuse the heck out of them.