[PattiJT]

Flame,
You'll get little argument from me about any of that. There is sooo much to be said for cuddling and snuggling! But, why limit it to the nighttime? I've been living an unintentional experiment for the last 3 years+, where sex has evaporated to nil. My wife decided it wasn't a had-to-have, and surprisingly, (to me, at least), so did I. As a result, more ways to show affection have manifested themselves, and in some cases, (such as snuggling and cuddling), are far more meaningful, expressive, and longer-lasting than any sex act. Wherever we are, lots of folks give a second look when they see us walking along talking and holding hands. The fact that so many of them find this a little unusual says something about the state of human affairs. Many people talk "at" each other, instead of talking "to" each other. There seems to be a process here. Talking leads to sharing, sharing leads to learning, learning leads to understanding, and understanding lets one lose the selfishness we all have to some degree. With selfishness eliminated, we become able to truly "share life" with our partner. And, with that, comes real contentment and happiness. My wife rises earlier than I do, but when I get up, the first thing I do is track her down and get a hug and a kiss for a minute or two, ask her how she feels, and tell her I love her. I wouldn't have done that so easily a few years ago.

So, I do understand where you're coming from, and what you're looking for. I assure you, "your kind of person" is out there, and you will find her. Probably unexpectedly. And, you're well "ahead of the curve" by knowing just what you're looking for when she does appear. Patti