[flamesabers]

I apologize, Flame. This was a serious thread. I won't go any further. Maybe someone needs to start a "random porn" thread for stuff like this.

I'm not sure if starting a "random porn" thread would help. I think the "random thoughts" thread I started would have sufficed, but evidently not. The bigger issue I think is the temptation to derail a thread rather than a lack of "randomness" threads. I certainly get why members like to engage in banter. I know I've joked and shared witty comments with various members, but I firmly believe there's a time and place for seriousness.

I find it disheartening how at least half of the thread has no real relation to the OP. The tragic irony is one of my ulterior motives with starting this thread was the hope of reinvigorating the deep and thought provoking conversations I truly enjoy. More often than not, I enjoy reading and writing the posts that takes 30 minutes or more to write versus the ones that are composed in 30 seconds or less. Maybe this forum would benefit from having a chat room, I don't know.

I have long since considered this forum to be my virtual home for matters considering NBE and gender. Now I'm having doubts. I'll probably still stay on, but I do have a better understanding of why some of the long-standing members may choose to disappear or barely participate in the discussions. Not being able to have deep and serious conversations about ourselves I think significantly disintegrates the value of this forum.