(07-01-2014, 10:14 PM)doodlebug2055 Wrote: I think you're misunderstanding me. I'm not going to "come out to the world" with a massive update about the "real me". I'm going to stop hiding it and let my guard down. If someone days, "hey, that's kind of girly" I'll just agree with them instead of getting defensive like I've done in the past. I'll probably never wear overtly feminine clothes in public but I will continue expanding my wardrobe with gender neutral or feminine attire. I am growing my hair and shooting for a feminine style but I may not ever wear it in an up-do fit for a bride. I'm just going to be a mix of male and female and let come whatever may. ...Iguess it's pretty hard to explain in words what it will look like but I doubt anyone will ever say of me, "hey look, there's a transsexual".
Oh, okay. I guess I did over-interpret your statement:
"As you all know, my wife is fully aware of the real me but I've also talked to my pastor about it and I'm trying to participate in a community group that would "expose" me to the general public."
Sounded rather 'coming outish' to me. Sorry.
Your clarification makes a lot of sense to me. If I wanted to be more expressive of my female side in public, I would do the same. It's like Flamesabers is doing, right? I still have a hard time understanding exactly how it's done. I think I remember you, Doodle, saying that you applied a bit of eye liner which brought on some tentative remarks (a la: "My, you look different somehow, Doodle! Have you lost weight?"). Is that the kind of thing you will be exploring more and more? As things progress, assuming they do, how will you feel when at some point you are (mis)read as a woman? i.e., someone refers to you as "ma'am"? Or, maybe you never want to carry it that far?
I hope you don't mind the probing questions.
CK