19-01-2014, 11:04 PM
Hey Jessica,
I know I'm out of place to say this but in my opinion, the honorable thing to do is to put your family first. I know, it sucks. ...It REALLY sucks! But gorging ourselves on selfish desires rarely pleases anyone and for both of us, the only guarantee is that our families would suffer. It's easy to IMAGINE things would be better for you and I after transition but in reality, there really is no certainty of that happening. Just to be brutally realistic, how likely is it that you'd be able to afford anything transition related with your own living expenses AND child support? No, I think it's best to concentrate on the good things in the life you have right now and be patient with what you want. You don't know what opportunities time will make available to you if you're patient. Perhaps over time, your wife will come around and allow more freedom to be yourself (like mine has). Maybe your kids will, for some unforeseen reason, be sympathetic to your plight when they are older and in the end, you'll be blessed with their accepted AND have great memories and relationships with them.
In the meantime, you've got friends to lean on here and shoulders to cry on as well. There's PM and minor herbs to ease the mental anguish and you can always express yourself in subtle ways by pushing the gender boundaries a little in what you wear, how you act and what you do. Hang in there friend. I'm pulling for ya.
I know I'm out of place to say this but in my opinion, the honorable thing to do is to put your family first. I know, it sucks. ...It REALLY sucks! But gorging ourselves on selfish desires rarely pleases anyone and for both of us, the only guarantee is that our families would suffer. It's easy to IMAGINE things would be better for you and I after transition but in reality, there really is no certainty of that happening. Just to be brutally realistic, how likely is it that you'd be able to afford anything transition related with your own living expenses AND child support? No, I think it's best to concentrate on the good things in the life you have right now and be patient with what you want. You don't know what opportunities time will make available to you if you're patient. Perhaps over time, your wife will come around and allow more freedom to be yourself (like mine has). Maybe your kids will, for some unforeseen reason, be sympathetic to your plight when they are older and in the end, you'll be blessed with their accepted AND have great memories and relationships with them.
In the meantime, you've got friends to lean on here and shoulders to cry on as well. There's PM and minor herbs to ease the mental anguish and you can always express yourself in subtle ways by pushing the gender boundaries a little in what you wear, how you act and what you do. Hang in there friend. I'm pulling for ya.