[Samantha Rogers]

Yeah, I can understand that aspect, too, Clara. It may be the same thing. I always suspected, in my case that it was to do with not being able to relax enough in a purely passive role, and yet... and yet, I have no trouble at all in that regard when I consider acting as "bottom" in more traditional sex. Possibly that is because, at least in the case of the participation of someone with a real member vrs. something made of plastic, my participation, though passive, would still be active in the sense of my partner recieving pleasure at the same time as myself. Then again, I guess I am not allowing for the case of those who DO receive pleasure and satisfaction from giving head, and by that I mean not the joy of giving pleasure, but rather those who really enjoy the act itself (which I can understand. too), in and of itself, regardless of the pleasure they are giving. I fear I am not making sense.
As you said (I think it was you...LOL) sex is a complicated business. Heh heh