[MonikaT]

I wish I had some advice for you. All I can say is that regardless of whatever fantasies your wife may have, that doesn't mean she wants to act on them. Fantasies serve a purpose, and once realized, they need to be replaced by some other fantasy that is usually "dirtier" than the one being replaced. I find it is better not to act on certain fantasies for this reason. I need to have something that arouses me that I never actually experience anywhere but in my mind.

I hope you are able to reassure your wife and work things out. Depending on where you live, it can be difficult to find a good couples therapist.