[GoneGirl]

One of my daughters suggests we have no control over what we are or where we go - our brains are just a massive chemical factory, the outcome of which is, by the nature of bio-chemistry, predisposed.

I hate to admit it, but I have a sneaking suspicion she might just be right ('cos the chemicals tell me so!!!!)

M x

I believe that, Miranda, to a great extent. Certainly, our basic personality, sexuality, intelligence, physical attributes, and various inborn talents are determined at birth and sustained by complex chemistry of the body.

But, unlike most species, we humans also have the capacity to learn, to reason, and to make judgements and choices in life. We all need to take that as an opportunity to think and act in ways that compensate for our inherent weaknesses. Our minds are a tool that can be used to leverage our abilities and overcome our faults.

I know what you mean, though, about wanting to take a permanent vacation from all the responsibilities we face every day. Retirement? It's no safe harbor. It brings its own set of problems.

You're right again when you point out that gender is no excuse for doing what has to be done. Women have shown themselves every bit as capable as men in confronting the challenges of modern life. It's sad, though, that so many people, male, female, and trans, have to face it alone.

Clara